Where Would We Be Without Moms?
By Jeff Salter
Well, the obvious answer is: without moms … we wouldn’t even exist!
Yeah, not only did they give us birth, but – in most cases – moms spent the next 18 years or so raising us and helping prepare us for “the world”. [Of course, the world wasn’t always prepared for US … but that’s a different story.]
When I was a kid, I was way too self-absorbed to realize how much my Mom had to sacrifice in order to provide for us and always “be there” for us. When I was a young parent with small children, I was too distracted with my career to notice how much my Wife sacrificed (and how hard she worked) … for the benefit of our kids. But now that I’m a grandfather (and three of our six grandkids live very near), I get a very close look at this process. And I’m so proud of the wonderful, sacrificial job my Daughter does with her kids. And even though my Daughter-in-law is over 800 miles away (so we see them much less often), I know she does a terrific job with my other three grand-children.
My maternal great-grandmother lived to be a few months past 100 years old. She resided two states away and I only remember meeting her a few times. Don’t recall any actual one-on-one ‘experiences’ with her.
My paternal grandmother (who died about 39 years ago) was bedridden for most of the time I remember her. But even though she was frail or ill — when we’d visit as young kids, we’d hop up in her bed and she’d tell us captivating stories.
My maternal grandmother lived in the same town as we did for several years, so she’s the older matriarch I got to know the best. She was quite a character. Had a lot of idiosyncrasies, but she loved us and always did her best. She died nearly 36 years ago.
I’ve always been grateful that my own kids had THREE active, healthy grandmothers who loved them and spent time with them: my mom, my mom-in-law, and my step-mom. For several years, they even had two great-grandmothers (my wife’s side of the family).
For a look at my thoughts, last year at this time, about Mothers – including Moms as characters in our novels – please check out this link. https://fourfoxesonehound.wordpress.com/2011/05/05/two-different-looks-at-mothers/
That column also features a Mother’s Day poem I wrote for my Mom about 41 years ago.
This Sunday, if weather allows, we’ll be in the upper meadow for a Mom’s Day picnic. No, I don’t plan to cook. It’ll probably be something I purchase that’s already made. But, hey, it’s the thought that counts … right?
Whether you’re a Mom, Grandmother, Mother-in-Law, or Step-Mom – or what the greeting card people call “other Mother” – please accept my heartfelt appreciation. Take your shoes off, put your feet up, and relax. Enjoy this special Sunday. Because Monday morning, it’s BACK TO WORK!
If your mom is still living, what are your plans for her on Mother’s Day?
If you’re the senior Mom in your family, what are the folks planning for YOU?