Hard-pressed for time and ideas this week, I thought I would blend ideas from this blog and my other one.
My other blog is Tonette Joyce, Food, Friends, Family here on WordPress:

The idea for it was inspired by people’s lack of confidence in being able to entertain in this busy world, and their fear of dealing with any extra needs of their guests. I try to impart knowledge and give easy-entertaining tips with recipes for simple-to-easy-but- fancy fare for any guest, including those with special or restricted diets. I try to show people how they can be prepared for the unexpected with little planning and I tell a few stories along the way.

Since I am a certified foodie, having been a professional cook, baker, restaurateur and personal chef, The Hound,(Jeff Salter), asked me for advice for storing extra food for emergency situations and recommended that I use his questions and my answers as a blog post. Following through with that suggestion started a series on Emergency Preparedness which has been a big hit. I only planned on one or two posts, but it has stretched out to four so far, and I have gotten requests from readers around the world,(literally; the U.S., Canada, Europe, Africa, Australia, East and South Asia), who want more. I am obliging. We’ve covered not only food storage, but suggested foods to store and many other topics including water reserves, lighting options, household and first aid supplies to keep on hand…and where to find room to store them. (Maybe you’d like to come and take a quick look; you may be surprised what you can have on-hand that you did not think of, that would make life a little easier in an emergency or when you have unexpected guest…which can constitute a real emergency!)

But another thought I’d like to bring up is one that was inspired by the first two postings this week. Foxes Iris and Janette let us in on their lives a little more by telling us that they both have lingering health problems, but have embraced it all as essential to who they are today. Hound Jeff and I also have chronic health issues that we are at peace with, knowing it has helped to shape us. All of us have or have had other, personal and family problems that we agree have improved us to be  more compassionate and capable people.
I know of many other people who were very self-contained until they were hit with physical pain and suffering and became better people for it; for others, it is too much to bear. And this idea is where I blend the blogs.

Those of us who have had lingering physical problems are better prepared emotionally to handle other crises, I believe, than those who breeze through life. I have seen many people crumble over small issues; if they only knew what some go through just to get out of bed in the morning.
After years of several ongoing health issues, I needed a biopsy and several other invasive tests to identify and rule-out several other problems possibly rearing their heads. My then-family doctor stretched them out over a couple of months; I asked for them to be consolidated.He  said, “No. I have had people wig-out over just getting their throat cut for the biopsy.” I rather took it in stride. When I was at a hospital awaiting one test, I picked up a pamphlet on stress. It said, “Any major life-changing event can cause major stress that  may make one feel overwhelmed. Events such as: Divorce, Serious illness, Bankruptcy, Loss of job, Loss of a business, Unplanned pregnancy, Death of a loved one, Car accident, Loss of home…” I was going through 7 of the 9. (The unplanned pregnancy was my teenage son and his future,now-ex,-wife’s. My husband and I  managed not to get divorced over all our other problems, but it wasn’t always easy and we were still hanging onto our home, but even that  wasn’t definite at the time.) Yet, there I was, coping.

I would love to win the lottery and go about doing good with it and yes, I would use some to make my life easier. I would be thrilled to know that my children and grandchildren would not want, but I am not sure I would allow them always have it on Easy Street. I would like to think that they would truly understand others, be sympathetic and be ready for what life is bound to hand them. Those closest to me have heard me say that someone “needs to have a problem, for their own sake”. I hope you always embrace your sufferings and feel stronger within yourself for them.

A  friend of mine and I were commiserating one day on how many problems were being thrown our way. She said to me, ” Life; it’s a test, Tonette, it’s all a test” to which I replied, “Yes, but I thought I was passing!”.

How about you? Are you passing the Test of Life? Do you feel more prepared for life from your trials? Are you grateful for what they have done for you? I hope you can look back and see that you gained from the experiences.


About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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10 Responses to Preparedness

  1. Iris B says:

    Great post to finish off this week, Tonette. It reminded me of a song by my favourite singer Darius Rucker:
    ” You gotta live and learn, you gotta crash and burn
    You gotta take some stances and take some chances
    You gotta laugh and love and take all life has to give
    You gotta live and learn so you can learn to live”
    It kinda says it all, doesn’t it 🙂
    As for the lottery … of course I’d love to win as well, but looking at the many people who are now worse off than before, I sometimes wonder if it’s worth it. Hmmm


    • Oh, well, Iris, people who say that money can’t buy happiness don’t deserve money! If it doesn’t actually buy happiness, it can alleviate a lot of UNhapiness. I may have some of my socialist-grandfather’s genes in that I know I could not live with myself if I bought a dozen hideously expensive cars when there are so many people who just need somrthing to get themselves back and forth to work.I find it hard to believe that the first billion-dollar home is built right up against the biggest slum in India and everyone seems to think that is acceptable. No, as I said,I would not be handing out large sums for my children and grandchildren to become Paris Hiltons. They’d have to earn the right in my eyes but most of their inheritance would be gone.I’d have fun helping others. I’m afraid we have given too much to others in the past and we could be a little comfortable ourselves,(I’ll tell you more some other time.)
      In the meantime,
      It would be worth it.


  2. jeff7salter says:

    I certainly agree that the many setbacks experienced by some people can be used for greater good — in a process often referred to as “refining” (where material goes thru the furnace to be purified and strengthened).
    And I agree that many people will let one big setback — or possibly several minor ones — completely derail them.
    And yet there are others who seem to face one trial after another … or even multiple trials at the same time. Those who are not crushed by the trials seem to emerge stronger.
    So I agree that life often INCLUDES tests of various kinds, but I view it somewhat like this: life gives us many opportunities to learn and mature and improve … some of these opportunities are through circumstances or situations that we’d much rather not have to endure. But in our coping, we learn and mature and improve.


    • Oh,I agree completely Jeff.I have been know to ask God not only WHY , but “Can’t I learn some other way,Lord?” And the oft repeated: “Look, God,I am not going to be perfect no matter what you do to me; haven’t I come a long way?( And btw, notice the others who could use some work.) ” I’m not sure that God or Fate is amused.


      • jeff7salter says:

        definitely have asked that question: “Isn’t there a less painful way for me to learn this?”
        But I think both of us recognize that the way we cope can be of assistance to others when they face similar problems.


      • Yes, has and it has certainly made me understand some bitter people,too and how they got that way….which helps me to avoid being like them.


        • jeff7salter says:

          Most of the bitter people I’ve known are folks who want to be sure they can infect as many others as possible. They’re not content at being bitter by themselves … they want lots of bitter company.


      • True,Jeff:Misery loves company. I have also been dealing with so many who are ‘damaged goods’ that I have found that they don’t even KNOW how to relate to others or to treat them well.They might try, but their psyches are ingrained with what they were subjected to. Was it Will Rogers who said something like if you treat a man and a dog mean you end up with a mean man or dog? I’ve had people cry on my shoulder and swear they don’t want to be like their parents only to have them unconsciously do the same mean tricks to others. “As the twig is bent, so grows the tree”. Man, I am just full of quotes today.


  3. pjharjo says:

    How about you? Are you passing the Test of Life? Do you feel more prepared for life from your trials? Are you grateful for what they have done for you? I hope you can look back and see that you gained from the experiences.

    AS you inferred in your post, you already know my answers to your closing questions about preparedness and tangible gains, Tonette. I just wanted to tell you that you wrote an amazing blog on this subject!

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  4. Thank you,Janette. I think I’m passing on 20/20 hindsight!


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