It’s finally my turn :)

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
— Herm Albright


Phew.  A Free Week.  I’ve become a care-giver for my elderly mother.  Figuratively, my new job began 2 years ago, when I began all the footwork to make this happen.   Literally, it became my job on the 14th of this month when I traveled to Louisiana to transfer her to Washington State to be near me. 

I flew down on Thursday and we flew back on Friday.  While she lives in a local Care Center, I am with my momma every day to watch over her and ensure she receives the proper care at the center.

I have breakfast with her and spend a couple hours with her.  Then I go home for a few hours to do what needs to be done there, and then I return to where she is living to have dinner with her and spend some more time with her after dinner.

It’s been wondered to me (before the fact) how I would fit taking care of her the way I do, in, and still be able to continue to work on my writing.   Believe it or not, I’m doing it! 

When my brothers and sisters at my church expressed concern about becoming overwhelmed, I told them I was with my momma every day to ensure she would NOT become overwhelmed with the sudden change from where she has been for the past 6 years.  They then expressed they were concerned about ME becoming overwhelmed!  LOL!  I had not thought of that.

I’m proud of myself that while my hours do threaten to overwhelm me; they have not.  🙂  I really do look forward to spending as much time as I can with my momma.  🙂  Another way it’s fun is that I’ve been busy taking stuff to her room to make it homier, too. Before long we will be able to decorate for Christmas!

What brings Joy to your heart?

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Janette is an author of Romantic Paranormal Fantasy. CONNECTIONS, her first series, is Indie published. You can follow her or sign up for her newsletter, and learn more about her new releases as they become available, at She lives in the beautiful and prolific Pacific NW of the USA.
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12 Responses to It’s finally my turn :)

  1. I love that quote! That quote is spot on! 🙂 I’m glad that you can be there for your mom, I don’t know if she expresses it or not, but I’m positive that she is grateful for your love! You’ll have to get her a little tree for the room! 🙂 Nothing is better than the glow of Christmas lights!


    • pjharjo says:

      Thanks, Kate! I loved that quote, too. 🙂 I’ve been trying to annoy everyone at the Care Center with my constant smile and bright attitude. LOL! it’s definitely been “worth it.” I’ve gotten return smiles from all I’ve seen, even those grumpy ones who initially would not talk to or smile at me. I like to think I’m making a difference in some of the lonely lives there who I never see with visitors. They’re all jealous of my momma and her daily visitor! 🙂 (and her wall-mounted TV I got her for Christmas) LOL!

      I know she is grateful for my presence. We make each other happy, that’s why I made it my mission to get her up here near me. 🙂 When I arrived at the CC for breakfast this morning, she was already sitting at her table and waiting for her food in the dining room. After I sat down, one of her new friends who was sitting there with her told me, “She smiled when she saw you enter the room.” :)!

      I’ve already decided I am going to put up a small lit tree in her room. But thanks for mentioning it! I have been know to forget things. LOL!


  2. #1 , you are a great daughter! And YOU are the only one who knows what you need to do and what you can handle.I have been through this with others over my situation with my grandson.People have given me advice left and right but they don’t realize how NOT doing the
    right thing would be more on me, (and you), than any effort we have to make doing the right one…right?
    I have had people hand me The Serenity Prayer:
    [God grant me the serenity
    to accept the things I cannot change;
    courage to change the things I can;
    and wisdom to know the difference.]
    They don’t always understand that we CAN change the situation and know that we have the wisdom,(at least , in this situation), to know that we can, it feel good.
    It is less effort of the heart when we care to go ahead and do the caring. What others see as ‘being tied down’,I feel is freeing,at least in my heart.I believe that is your situation as well.
    God give you strength and peace.


    • pjharjo says:

      Thank you for your compliment and blessing, Tonette. 🙂 You and I are on the exact same page! Taking care of my momma in the ways I do does not feel like I’m “tied down” at all. It’s gotten to be just like my daily writing; it is harder for me to do nothing, than spend time with her. You are right, it does “free” me. Nothing is right unless she is my priority. 🙂 I have also realized I have more ability TO do, and that I CAN do, than I ever did before. 🙂

      I haven’t had to deal with people giving me advice. Quite on the other hand, what I’ve heard is that I’m going a good job. 🙂 Those words make me fee so good. I had no idea what I was doing, but I DID IT! And I am so glad I did. 🙂 The POA authority to make all decisions regarding momma and her care was signed over to me last Friday, and this is the first time in my life I have ever felt certain about my decisions.

      I can’t take all the credit for what I have done, though. Without God I could have done nothing. I have been praying for this for a long time, and now my prayers are being answered! 🙂

      May Peace be with you in your situation, also.


  3. jeff7salter says:

    God bless you for devoting so much of your time, every day, to comfort & assist your mom.
    Don’t forget, however, to take some time for YOURself … along the way.


    • pjharjo says:

      I have been counseled in that way by others, too, Jeff. 🙂 But, ya know? It’s also for myself that I spend time with my mother. 🙂 Thank you for your blessing.:)


  4. digitalgranny says:

    Blessings to you and your Mom. I am full time caregiver for my husband and I do have in home help and a lot of family help. I am blessed.
    Your Mom is blessed to have you also, and you her.


    • pjharjo says:

      Thanks, dg! I wish I were as fortunate as you to be able to keep momma here in my home with me. But the place I have found for her is good, and it is only a 5-10 minute drive away (depending on traffic). it’s 2 1/2 miles from where I live.


  5. Laurie Ryan says:

    Ahhh, congratulations on having your mother here with you. Yes, it’s a lot of work. But it’s a labor of love. Enjoy!


    • pjharjo says:

      I am enjoying, Laurie! 🙂 You’ve been through this with me (in the carpool to meetings) since the beginning, so I imagine you have relief it’s all over now, too. LOL!


  6. Iris B says:

    I can imagine your joy of having your mum there. I can’t wait to give mine a hug again – hopefully soon!
    Enjoy this very special Christmas season.


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