Socially Graceful

This week we’re talking about using social media.

If you want to talk about Facebook, I’m there all the time.

You see, twenty years ago I moved to a small town. (Insert your own jokes here.) It isn’t easy.

For many years I tried to avoid Facebook, but all the real friends I had were far from me and few had time to continually email. Besides, they stopped sending pictures. ”I have them on my Facebook” was all I’d hear, so I gave in…and I am so glad I did.
Now I hear from all kinds of old friends and so many new ones. I have made many connections with writers and people who share other interests with me. I have three FB pages. One is for the people who are what I call “People Collectors”, the younger, local moms who asked  at Cub  Scout meetings, “Are you on Facebook? I’ll ‘friend’ you”, even when my grandson was not even in their den. Or people with whom the only thing we had in common was where we worked together years ago, and then there are the relatives of ex-in-laws and ….you get the idea. I’ve tried to keep the ‘Share this if you have the best daughter in the world’ people out of my other, favorite FB, but they slip in.(I’m still trying to figure out how they all have the same, best daughter, because …never mind).

My main FB page has my writer contacts, plus real friends and family that I want to hear from.

If Jesus is judging people by whether they share inane posts on FB about Him or not, I would be very much surprised, (and in a lot of trouble, but I’m willing to bet my soul against that one…literally).

The third is attached to that and is for my other blog on easy entertaining and cooking…I have a million posts on there, particularly a few who stay on their kitchen and run their life there and on FB; it isn’t all that fascinating.

And I have no idea if anyone pays any attention to my few posts there.

I am Linked-In, to what end, I have no idea.

I don’t even know what Tumblr does, but it seems I had to sign up with it years ago to get something from someone, or attempt to.

I got set up on  Disqus to read something by someone sometime. I get notices from them, (which get immediately deleted).

I am also signed up with Google+, but I don’t even know what to do with it. I have missed a bunch of messages on it and I’ll bet people think I’m ignoring them, but I’m not….I’m just not paying any attention to Google +.

As for Twitter, I feel guilty when I get a message that someone is now following me. I usually only tweet to enter contests,( usually Rafflecopter.) I do it on the computer…I can’t imagine reading everything that anyone has to say in a tweet…and there are so darned many of them, especially trying to squint on a phone to do it. Not that I do. I still have a ‘grannyphone”.
(Although I did just tweet about the give-away I have on my easy entertaining and food blog.)

As for my grannyphone, I did break down and start texting on it when I have to. I had to start to receive messages because no one wants to call anymore.(Don’t get me started about txtng. It’s great for leaving messages, but I can multi-task when I’m on the phone. It takes time and attention to sit there with your nose on the screen texting. And I am so slow at it, people keep running over my answers. I hate  that. I will lose it if I tell one more person that I have to go only to have to find my phone again, pick up a text when I have my hands in something and find that someone has texted back: ”k”…they had to bother me again …and really? They have to shorten “OK”?)

And I feel as bad when someone says they are following me in Pintrest, because it’s basically the same deal as Twitter. I know better than to get sucked into looking at things there. It’s a maze I don’t need to get lost in. I have too much to do. Now a sister-in-law has her crochet patterns up on another one, “Craftsy”, which I needed to set up an account on, because some things you just do for some family members. They asked me what MY interests were,I hit one and they started asking all kinds of intricate questions regarding the one. But gee! I don’t run my life around cake decorating…I didn’t even when I ran a bakery! Enough, People.

I have posted, (and will post), book reviews on Goodreads, but reporting what I am reading, what I have read and what I want to read is TMI, and Too Much Time. Who does that all the time? Go take the time to read a good book, for Heaven’s sake!

I found old acquaintances on MySpace long ago, which was interesting. He was a bit famous on his own but you’d really recognize his father’s name right away.He was a young man, and I was a kid. He came in with a family friend and was kind to me.It was nice to speak with him,(I knew he wouldn’t remember me).He was glad to hear that although he thought he was very wrapped-up in himself that he had been considerate at that age. I never would have sought him out and he lives nearly half the world away,but I haven’t been on MySpace in ages…is it even still running?

So, no, I don’t use a lot of social media but I use Facebook to socialize a lot. It has probably saved my sanity, but I guess some of you may be laughing at the thought…that my sanity has been saved.
How about you?


About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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10 Responses to Socially Graceful

  1. My grand mother, bless her heart, we are always going “Did anyone tell Grammy Skeeter?” because the rest of the family will have this whole conversation on a group text, and then we forget to fill her in – and she still has an older phone, and has no desire to learn how to text!


    • I knew I would be hard-pressed to hear my sister’s voice when I started to text, but it has been a great help with my sons, so I can shoot off a quick,”I have your kid(s)”, or “Call me” when they have such busy scheduled and can’t always answer the phone. On the other hand,I kind of have to use it to make an appointment with one of my nieces to get her to answer the phone…but at least it works!


  2. jeff7salter says:

    I’ve been on FB for nearly 6 years now. Only started to please somebody in the family… then I began hooking up with people I had lost contact with (but wished I hadn’t).
    One of the many things I still love about FB — To post something and have replies (and interaction) from relatives, HS classmates, colleagues from my library career, friends from our former residences, new friends here in KY, church buddies, cousins I hadn’t seen in decades, and all the assorted cousins of my wife’s. Add to that all the authors I’ve met and befriended. What a cool, happy meeting place!


  3. pjharjo says:

    You seem to have the same opinion as I about all the posts and texts on social media, Tonette. I too have no idea what Tumblr does and haven’t figured out Pinterest (even though I believe I have an account there) and have never come into contact with MySpace.. I’m also a slow texter (bc I refuse to abbreviate, and I also strive to use correct punctuation) And I HATE it when I receive more comments before I’m even able to answer the first one! I feel your pain. Thanks for the enlightenment as to today’s subject, Tonette. 🙂


  4. pjharjo says:

    Sounds like you have the same problems as I do with all this social media stuff, Tonette. I guess it’s a modern evil we have to live with, huh? 🙂 Sorry for the late reply.


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