Breaking Bread With the Breakfast Club


This has been designated FREE WEEK at Four Foxes, One Hound, which means that I need to find my own topic to write about. I could write about one of my many hobbies, but since I understand I’m going to have a free week every month, there will be plenty of time for that. Instead, I decided to start writing about some of the groups of people who give me encouragement, support, and inspiration. Today I’m going to tell you about a breakfast club of sorts.

I feel very fortunate to live less than ten miles from where I grew up. Other than the first year of my life (we moved to America when I was eleven months old) and the four years I spent in college (I attended Illinois State University in Normal, IL) I’ve spent the last six decades just south of Grand Rapids, Michigan.

A few years ago, one of my high school acquaintances decided it would be a good idea to have a monthly get-together at a local restaurant for a Saturday brunch. And every month, she posts the date and location on Facebook – even if she can’t be there. I attend as many as I can – it’s near my mother’s house, so I eat and catch up on everyone’s news and then go to mom’s to help her with whatever chores she needs to get done.

Most of these women were just casual acquaintances back when I was in high school. Some of them I didn’t know at all. It wasn’t a huge school – about 180 in my graduating class – but the group that gathers has an age span of about fifteen years, so some had graduated by the time I got to high school, and some entered high school after I had left. Still, over the course of two or three years, we’ve gotten to know each other and look forward to finding out how life is treating us. Several of us have lost parents and siblings. When one mentioned on Facebook that her sister wasn’t doing well and could use some cards and notes of encouragement, two people brought in several get-well cards that we all signed.

I find it a joy to be able to put this event on my calendar each month. The only thing most of us have in common is that for a few years of our lives we attended the same school. But though we’re different ages, and have had different life experiences, we find comfort in meeting with each other regularly. Most of us are Facebook friends

Where do you find your support? Do you have a group of mismatched friends who become good friends despite their differences?

This type of wide-ranging women is the basis for the Stitching Post series, written with co-author Stephanie Michels. Women with no common thread except their love of sewing meet weekly and draw strength from each other. Check out the first two in the series (click on the cover for more info):

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About Patricia Kiyono

During her first career, Patricia Kiyono taught elementary music, computer classes, elementary classrooms, and junior high social studies. She now teaches music education at the university level. She lives in southwest Michigan with her husband, not far from her five children, nine grandchildren (so far), and great-granddaughters. Current interests, aside from writing, include sewing, crocheting, scrapbooking, and music. A love of travel and an interest in faraway people inspires her to create stories about different cultures. Check out her sweet historical contemporary romances at her Amazon author page:
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16 Responses to Breaking Bread With the Breakfast Club

  1. I do envy you! Since I moved to Ky. most of my friends have been in touch via email or now, more Facebook and blogs.Most of my support comes via FB, where I reconnected with some old childhood friends,(only one of whom still lives in the same state), and new friends.
    I have ALWAYS had mismatched friends,(Heaven help us that there is another like me somewhere!). On FB, I have everyone from Sunday school teachers to writers of erotica, atheists to Born-again Christians,conspiracy theorists to romance writers, animal rights activists to cute-kitten/puppy video posters. And they have wonderful attributes, all of them, or they would not be there.(I have another for ‘people collectors’; they ones who ‘friend you’ just because.They aren’t allowed where I have my thinking people.)


    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      Facebook is wonderful for re-connecting, isn’t it? I’ve been able to catch up with lots of college friends and others who don’t make it to the monthly breakfast. I think having an assortment of friends makes me a better person – more sympathetic and understanding. I know many conservative friends would disagree, but I smile and nod. One of my closest friends started on the evils of interracial marriage – totally oblivious to the fact that my husband and I are of different races.


      • What a fool!
        I agree totally; being exposed to many different people makes you more sympathetic and makes you THINK; you don;t have to give up your standards,(if they are decent ones).
        I have people who try to tell me all sorts of garbage…they are out!


  2. Your monthly gatherings sound like a lot of fun


  3. jeff7salter says:

    I’m one of those oddballs who doesn’t really enjoy “eating meetings”. And since I’ve had these issues with my stomach (which is significantly better — though not “cured” — with a gluten-free diet), I have been even LESS interested in gatherings for meals.
    But I, too, feel a special bond with the folks who attended my high school. I had lost touch with almost all of them — except for the 20th & 25th reunions which I attended and enjoyed.
    Like you, I have stumbled across many via Facebook. And many more I have spent years looking for… and finally found a few.
    Oddly, in my situation, the primary HS building of our campus burned to the ground about 8 yrs after I graduated. And I find I have rather little to talk about with those who attended the NEW campus — far remote from the old location. But for those who attended that old building — even if several years ahead of me (or behind), I find we share a special kinship.


    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      I guess if you don’t enjoy eating and talking you wouldn’t have fun with us. The guys meet at another restaurant on different days and they seem to enjoy it. I started to worry when I started dieting in earnest about two months ago, but so far I’ve been able to find something satisfying as well as Weight Watcher approved (or very nearly so) almost anywhere I go. But then again, I like to eat vegetables.
      I think connections like this help me cope with the thought of getting older. It’s not that I fear it, but knowing that others are going through the same trials makes the road easier.


  4. Helen Pollard says:

    This sounds like a lovely group, and it’s great that you look forward to it each month. I am only in touch with one friend from high school now, and we only meet once in a blue moon – but when we do, It’s like being thirteen again. And I can’t hide anything from her – she’s known me too long! 🙂


    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      That’s the wonderful thing about friends you’ve known a long time, isn’t it Helen? You’ve been through too much to keep anything from them. Thank you so much for stopping in!

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  5. Jo Grafford says:

    Love the post, Patricia!


    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      Thanks, Jo! It was a fun one to write, once I decided on the topic! I think for the next several free weeks I’ll look at some of my other “hen clubs” as my husband calls them. After all, life would be pretty dull without them!


  6. Patty,
    I was just talking about your school breakfasts today at work and how awesome I think it is. Then I came home and read your post. What a strange coincidence! I wish I lived closer to the town where I grew up as I have so much fun when I do have the chance to get together with some of them. 🙂


    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      It sure is a coincidence! At least you do get the chance to meet with them, Stephanie! Thanks so much for visiting us today!


  7. pjharjo says:

    How nice to have a high school group who meets just because. 🙂 There’s been some talk of if my high school is going to be having a reunion soon, but at this point it’s just talk. “/ Thanks for the reminder of this month’s FREE week. 🙂 I’ll get mine posted soon.


  8. Sherry Gloag says:

    Loved your post Patty. 🙂


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