Did You Ever Have To Make Up Your Mind?


One of us decided that our “regrets” would make a good topic of conversation.

I started this post several times and at one point my list was quite long. This will probably be the shortest post you will ever see from me because although there are many choices that I have made, many ‘sins of omission’, most of what has happened in my life have worked out for the best.

I haven’t been perfect, not by a long shot. I can’t say that every piece of lead has turned to gold. I can’t say that every cloud has had a silver lining but what I have and have not done has led me to where I am now in my life and the people around me. I am not always happy, I can’t say that I am even always content, but it’s my life and I am here with you lovely people.

Being here, being on this blog and my other blog would never have happened had I not made a few of what could be considered ‘errors in judgment’, downright bad choices or moments when I failed to act upon a situation, or opportunities unseized. I certainly would never have tried  to write a ‘romance’. I wouldn’t even have my beautiful grandchildren had I not done things that I could otherwise regret,(such as moving to Kentucky.)

So let us reconsider regrets and do some reflecting. Once one takes responsibility for one’s actions, (or inactions, as the case may be), a person can see where good comes of what at first was bad. Even if there is dreadfulness, we can learn from it, if not rectify it. We can try not to be scared but strengthened by unfortunate acts of misjudgment or lost opportunities, especially if in that strength we find compassion for others who have their own reasons for regret.

I hope everyone takes these words to heart and finds peace among their regrets.

[On the other hand, The Hound’s mention yesterday of not taking the opportunity to see The Temptations did give me pause: history would not have been changed had I not been too shy to stop the people driving the car I was in when I saw John Sebastian walking down the street in the Georgetown section of Washington, DC. Many years later my nieces met him and told him the story; he said that I should have stopped him and that if the opportunity presents itself again, I should speak to him. I will.]

About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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14 Responses to Did You Ever Have To Make Up Your Mind?

  1. Jeanne says:

    You are so right, Tonette! I am in the best place of my life right now, and I wouldn’t have gotten here if not for all of the other choices, good and bad, that I have made in the past. Every person and situation in my life has led me to this point, and if even one of those elements had been missing, there’s no telling where I would be right now, or what I would be doing. If I had not married a man who turned out to be a drug addict, I would never have followed him to Texas from Michigan. If I hadn’t moved to Texas, I would probably have never joined the Air Force, and gotten to do all the wonderful things I did during my enlistment, and would never have met the woman who lived across the hall from me in the barracks in Germany, who has turned into a lifelong friend. If I had never gotten involved in network marketing, and then Internet marketing as a way to promote my network marketing business, I would never have met this guy on the other side of the planet who stole my heart, and holds it to this day. I would probably never have had the opportunity to even visit Australia, let alone live here! I’m happy with where I am now, and it took every other piece of my life, the good, the bad and the ugly, to be in place at the right time to get to this point.


  2. jeff7salter says:

    Used to love the Lovin’ Spoonful songs. And John Sebastian was a terrific lead singer.
    Yes, all our decisions & choices — of commission or omission — have rolled together to bring us to where we are today. Whether that be high or low, good or bad, healthy or ill. Some refer to it as “life” but I think of it as a process.
    My favorite part of this process has been encountering interesting and creative and caring people along the way.


    • Perfect, Jeff…that is exactly how I now feel about life.
      BTW, John Sebastian wrote most of the Lovin’ Spoonful’s songs and many, many others songs,(including “Welcome Back Kotter”.The show was named “Kotter” until they heard the theme song he offered). He also wrote music for many commercials, including one for Lay’s Potato Chips that to this day, I get stuck in my head!


  3. Nicely written post


  4. Patricia Kiyono says:

    What a great way to look at your life’s decisions. It’s so true that they are what made you what you are today. Whether they were good or bad, the result is what you are and where you are, and you can choose to be happy or unhappy about it. I prefer to be happy.


    • Jeanne says:

      Wish WP had a ‘like’ button like FB does. I agree. Everything in our past has brought us to where we are now. And I’m happy with now.


    • Yes, thanks, Patricia and Jeanne. I rather had to come to that decision when I found myself in quite a muddle here…I could take it as the biggest mistake of my life that lead to my ruination OR I could see it as something I had to do, ‘fate’, if you will, that lead to may different changes and learning opportunities..(darned hard lessons they were, too!).
      Closed and opened doors.


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