Hair Today,Gone Tomorrow

Trying to come up with original topics, I suggested we write about haircuts gone wrong, since it has probably happened to everyone.

What I didn’t consider was permanents gone wrong, which were brought up earlier in the week by Patricia Kiyono. I have a lot of hair, but it is fine and without any body of its own, none whatsoever. In the 70s-80s I did the perm-thing and, well, suffice it to say that after one particularly bad disaster, my brother-in-law’s brother refused to be seen in public with me. Really.Whereas before he was keen on me, he refused go pick something up with me for our siblings, all because of my hair.

I’ve had relatives and friends cut my hair with only one problem, one time, but I’ve had an inordinate professional disasters. Once I went back and even the owner/manager couldn’t fix what the cutter had done to me; my money back did not help. I’ve had ‘stylists’ who simply would not listen to what I wanted. I have only had one professional cut that truly was professional and what I needed, if not exactly what I had pictured.

A couple of the times I had hand surgery and asked for something I could maintain with one hand. As the ‘stylists’ were “styling” me with round brushes and blow driers going, I pointed out that I would not be able to do that. Even so, more than once the person with the brushes and drier continued to babble on about how to give it lift and defussion, etc., none of which was possible to do one-handed. I looked pretty limp until it grew out each time.

Another time I went to a well-respected, pricey stylist who would not advise me, who only trimmed me and sold an expensive hair product to me. I had my business and needed to look neat and have something that would hold together. I wasn’t happy with the outcome. A customer came in soon afterward who was about my age, with my coloring and the greatest hair, a style I figured I could use. I asked her who did her hair. I guess I don’t have to tell you that it was the stylist I just spent too much money on for next to nothing.

I decided that I needed to cut my own out of necessity,(so I didn’t end up in jail for using the cutters’ own scissors against them). But I had learned to cut hair for my husband.

Soon after we got married, my husband handed me scissors and told me to cut his hair. I had never cut hair, except to trim my own bangs. True, we were on an extremely tight budget, but I had no idea what I was doing. All I could do was round it off in the back and it was pretty good, (for what it was),but I was nervous and worried and voiced it. He kept telling me about how his mother cut all the kids’ hair, (she had 15 to practice on), so when I got to trim around his ear and he mentioned his mother one too many times, his ear got nicked! It was an accident, but I think maybe subconsciously…

Anyway, we took a trip to my family soon afterward and I had my mother show me what to do. I’ve taken my husband to the barber a few times but he has never been happy, so I always do his hair…(besides, there is less and less of it to worry about every year). I cut our sons’ hair until they hit high school and no one was any the wiser, but by then they felt that it was time to get the cord cut as well as their hair.

The one time I looked bad from a non-‘professional’ cut was when I had been quite ill as a child and had my hair cut short for the first time in my life. I was 10 or 11 and my sister, who is somewhat older, decided that I needed to look more ‘in’. It was the time of the British Invasion and the style had hair tapered from the bangs down the sides. My sister, being my sister, insisted on doing this while she was on the phone with her boyfriend. She wouldn’t ask him to call back, so she put the phone on her shoulder and cut my hair…need I tell you how crooked it ended up?

The BF was a drummer; she had a thing for drummers back then, but that relationship didn’t last long. Fast forward fifty (!) years after they met: she recently got back in touch with him. She told me all about his life and how he is now a retired archaeologist and they have been communicating. I said, “It’s nice that you talk to him, but you are not going anywhere near my hair!”

It seems we all had more to say on hair disasters this week than I anticipated. There are a lot of people who seem to be getting licenses that don’t deserve to be let out in public with scissors, apparently.


About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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14 Responses to Hair Today,Gone Tomorrow

  1. Patricia Kiyono says:

    So…I take it you still cut your own hair? I don’t think I’d be brave enough to do that. Sounds like you’ve had more than your share of disasters. Hope you’re happy with what you have now!


    • Yes,actually,I’m cutting it more often now.I’m kind of spooked with what I have to deal with around here. I’ve been experimenting a little more.I should get new pictures up.I have a bit of ‘swing’ right now!


  2. jeff7salter says:

    No wonder you suggested this topic. You have enough stories to fill a BOOK.
    My hair is kinda thin also, and I used to envy the guys who wore their hair like the early Beatles and it looked cool. Mine just looked like I was trying.
    The fact that your husband sat down and handed you some scissors indicates a lot of trust. I think that’s terrific.


    • At the time, he should not have trusted me, Jeff! (He was basically being cheap.) It was one of those “My mother always…” moments that happen in the early part of many marriages. The problem was, he expected me to do many things that were within her strong capabilities, but to know which of her stronger points to never emulate.Mind reading isn’t an art that neither she nor I ever possessed. We’ve made it past our 33rd anniversary, so I guess we worked all that out!

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  3. Lavada Dee says:

    The one and only time I tried to cut my hair it was the bangs and by the time I managed to get them even there wasn’t much left. Now I have an amazing hair stylist. I tell her I think she fertilizes it as it’s so thick it has to be thinned and grows fast so has to be done every month. Loved the topic and your post.


  4. I can imagine how crooked your hair was after your sister cut it. Did somebody fix it?


    • My mother tried to do something with it,Angie, but it was short and badly ‘tapered’ along the front on both sides, so I had to live with it.Fortunately, my hair grows very fast, which is one reason why I never dyed it…”roots” would drive me crazy!


  5. Cheryl says:

    I think every woman I know as well as most men, if they will talk about it has a hair disaster story. My mother took me to the salon as a child where I had too many bad haircuts to include stinky, frizzy perms and even a dreaded mullet. As an adult, I have had the stylists jerk my head around, yank and pull my hair, and burn my scalp with the blow dryer. That is besides them cutting it too short, uneven and basically doing what they wanted, charge me a lot and expect a tip. So disgusted with the salon, I asked a guy I had just started dating, now my husband, to give me a haircut because he said he could do it for me. Bottom line, he did a great job and now even colors my hair for me. My neighbor who works in a salon stopped by one afternoon to visit, while my husband was doing my hair and shared her opinion. She said my hair was too thick, it needed to be thinned out, and I should have layers cut into it. She also opined that my hair had gotten quite long and my husband wasn’t taking very much off. He just ignored her and finished my trim and then did my root touch up with henna. When she was sharing her “professional opinion”, it made me all the more thankful it was my husband wielding the shears. Later I told him how her comments made me cringe, he said he noticed by my body language, but not to worry, he was not going to screw up my hair to make her happy. He also shared how her sharing that she had just paid $130 for a cut and color at her salon didn’t impress him. He thought her hair looked rough, badly cut and the too dark color washed out her face. I laughed, then I gave him a tight squeeze hug. He’s a keeper.

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    • You are indeed a fortunate woman, Cheryl!
      It’s amazing what ‘professionals’ think they KNOW.I, too, have been told I had too much hair and the spit ends and uneven growth that happens when someone wields thinning shears is simply criminal!
      Thank you so much for visiting and sharing your experiences with us.


      • Cheryl says:

        My husband does not own a pair of the thinning shears or a razor knife, he said there is no reason to use them on a woman’s hair except to cause split ends and leave my ends looking straggly. Stylists use them so your hair will look bad and you will come back more often to get it “fixed”. He only uses a sharp pair of professional grade hair shears on my tresses. He does the full sectioning, pinning up my hair, and then trimming each successive layer to ensure the splits are trimmed off and the ends are even, not just a quick straight across the bottom in the back. He took over doing my childrens’ haircuts for me a couple years ago when the barber cut their hair so badly that it looked like steps. I figure that it saves me over $1000 a year on haircuts alone, more when you factor in the color, and I don’t get my hair badly hacked, nor do my children. I am indeed very fortunate, and I am very thankful every time I see a friend or coworker that gets a horrible haircut at the salon, that I don’t have to deal with that.

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  6. Cheryl, I use barber scissors on my husband , myself and anyone else, too. I took my grandson to one of those common quick-cut places, his mother won’t let me cut his hair.If my son or I don’t take him, she buzzes his hair completely off with clippers.When I told my husband that they charged $15. for what they did, he about had a heart attack and figured we saved many thousands over the years, not to mention aggravation!


    • Cheryl says:

      My mom was not happy that my guy was cutting my hair for me when we first started dating, but she was impressed at how good my boys haircuts looked, and was surprised that he had helped me do them, the boys fired me, now he does their complete haircuts. She has been at the house when he does them and figures his way of doing it would be too much work, she would just shave them bald. He uses the clippers with different guards to cut the sides shorter, not skinned and does the scissor over comb to blend the sides and do the top. I calculate the saving as follows: two haircuts monthly $30 plus tip and transportation would be $55. Mine cut and colored every 6 weeks would be between $150-200, plus tip and transportation. So I am not spending over $2000 for hair care by having him do the haircuts versus a trip to the salon and barbershop each year. No hassles, no bad haircuts and I have had a couple friends stop by and watch how he does the boys haircuts as they wanted to see how to do them at home and save a lot of money as well. He uses a lansky sharpening set to sharpen the shears as well as knives as he says they work better when sharp. I explained to a lady one day and she did not know you could sharpen them, hers were dull and she was going to throw them out and get another pair. Using good tools and maintaining them makes the job easier. I am sure that your at home haircuts have saved you thousands, it really is a big expense you can avoid if you can DIY.


  7. Again, you are lucky.I can’t imagine my husband ever having the patience or the wherewithal. I’m afraid his priorities for me are not as strong as mine for him.


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