“Occasional” Books

Our topic this week is to tell what books we might give to a person for a special occasion, crossing a milestone. For instance, a wedding.

That one is easy: “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”.

I scoffed at such pop-culture psychology until for whatever reason, I actually read the book.

I wish I had had it when we first got married.

It simply explains why men and women miscommunicate so badly, often even when they really are trying to understand each other; men and women usually just see things differently.

One example is that when most men are trying to work out a problem, they internalize; they ponder on it. When his wife tries to pull it out of him, get him to talk, he gets upset and can’t figure it out. On the other hand, often when a woman has a problem, she wants to talk it out; it helps most women to think out loud. Her husband will simplify her problem, or offer advice which she won’t take, and that upsets him. Why? Because men usually don’t discuss a problem unless they are looking for help.

Or, husbands will often suggest that a woman seek help or take classes or training when their wives voice self-doubt when embarking on a career or project, thinking that they are being supportive and helpful, when really, all their wives want is to be encouraged and have their confidence bolstered. In that case, the women are completely deflated, and the husbands have no clue as to what they did wrong. It helps when at least one of the partners realizes what is going on.

These are just a couple of examples and even though I was married for a quarter of a century before I read the book, it helped me.

A new baby? “The Care and Feeding of Sick Children” is one I’d recommend. It is written by a nurse who gives good rule-of-thumb medical advice, but she is a mom first. One quote is: “As a health-care professional I know that teething cannot cause fevers, diarrhea,[and several other maladies], but as a mother, I know that it can.” A common sense approach.

And I’d add a selection of good, classic story books that the parents will enjoy reading over and over, including, but not limited to, “The Tawny, Scrawny Lion”, “Tootle”, “The Little Red Caboose”, Sesame Street’s “I Want a Hat Like That”, plus standard nursery rhymes, including poetry such as “The Owl and the Pussycat”, “Winken, Blinken and Nod”, and the childhood poems of Robert Louis Stevenson. In other words, simple stories that can be read to the smallest babies; it’s never too early to start reading to them.

For a young person entering society,( a real job in the real world that may have social implications), I’d have them read Guy de Maupassant’s “The Necklace”, where pride ruined a wonderful career and the life of a married couple.

Stephen Vincent Benet’s “The Bishop’s Beggar” should be put in the hands of anyone newly ordained , or who will be in any position of authority ,entrusted with the concern of others. The bishop in the book is forced to confront his true character and do the right thing for his flock, and for his own soul.

For a recent Middle School, High School graduate or even a college graduate, I’d give a good writing handbook, like “Write Source 2000”.They can always use a good reference book that is easy to use and helps them to recall what they learned, or should have learned, in their classes. Good writing comes in handy in nearly any class they may take or any job they might have.

Those are the top-of-my-head choices during a very busy time at myplace.

Do you have any other suggestions for the groups I mentioned?

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About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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5 Responses to “Occasional” Books

  1. jeff7salter says:

    Though — mostly through reviews — I am well acquainted with the overall thrust of Men / Women / Mars / Venus, I confess I have never read it. I have, however read several articles which borrow on some of the same premises… and my former pastor (on several occasions) preached sermon series on the communication and comprehension differences between men and women.
    Funny thing about “The Tawny, Scrawny Lion”, “Tootle”, “The Little Red Caboose”. I am relatively certain these were read to me when I was a kid, though I have no particular memory of it. However, we had all three books when our kids were little and we often read these titles (among many others) to them.

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  2. I made sure I had some of my childhood favorites and many others when my kids were little, Jeff, because I know that I drove my mother and aunt crazy having them read the same ones over and over. THAT’S where I learned to have a large supply, (but I think they learned it too late with me!)
    I did the same for my grandkids, esp my grandson, who was with me much more than the girls. Even though I had many, there were a few favorites that we read again and again.I knew it was coming so I only had books that I really enjoyed!

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  3. Patricia Kiyono says:

    What a comprehensive list! I’d never be able to pull these “off the top of my head.” I loved the poetry books when my kids were small. The rhythm of the verse helped lull them into sleep and I believe it encouraged their artistic sides.

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    • Yes, Patty, I believe so, too.I don;t know why rhythm and rhyme fell out of poetry, nor do I have any idea why it has such a bad rap in the last several decades. Much like the lack of artistry and effort in most song lyrics anymore,(don’t get me started!), and music, I believe good rhymes make good neural pathways in the brain.

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  4. Joselyn says:

    Great suggestions! I don’t remember if I’ve read The Necklace. I will have to check it out.

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