This week we’re discussing expressions, behaviors, and activities that annoy us. I had to really take a few days to think about this – I guess it’s because I try to not let things bother me. Or maybe it’s because I don’t get out much, at least among people who annoy me. It’s a good thing I start my posts on Friday, so I’ve had the entire weekend to think about it.
“You don’t want to do that.” This was one my husband said often during the first several years of our marriage. He’s seven years older than me and felt he needed to share the benefit of his wisdom. Unfortunately, the message I received was “I am going to tell you what should and should not do” which did not set well with me. I think I finally have him trained to say “I don’t think that’s a good idea” followed by a logical explanation.
“I don’t care.” I remember hearing this one when I first met my husband’s children. This seemed to be the response for everything from “Do you guys want to get a pizza tonight?” to “Let’s go to the mall this afternoon.” I imagine they were conveying the idea that they were fine with whatever we planned for their time with us, but when I explained that I really wanted their input and that “I don’t care” is a negative response, they gradually changed their tunes. Now that they’re parents, I’ve noticed they don’t accept “I don’t care” as a response!
“Don’t go ballistic.” My daughters started throwing this at me when they were in their difficult pre-teen years. Everything I said was deemed stupid and when I expressed displeasure at things they said and did, my reactions were considered extreme, even when I didn’t say anything! Again, growing up and having children of their own was a sure cure.
Behaviors that Bug Me
Loud voices. My kids tell me that my hearing is getting bad, but for some reason I’m always able to pick up what people are saying in the next booth, or in the row behind me at church or in a meeting or across the room at a doctor’s office. If I am hard of hearing, then it seems that the lady or gentleman whose conversation is being shared with me must really be loud! Seriously, ma’am, I am sorry that your last date didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, but I don’t need to hear the details.
Disregard for time. I like to be punctual, and my hubby likes to be early. There are times when I show up five minutes after the time agreed upon, but those occasions are rare. So I get impatient when people are habitually late. The message I get from this is that my time is worth less than theirs.
Practical jokes. I don’t like them. Period. Please don’t involve me in them.
Copy this and share it on your profile. Sorry. I don’t think that copying and sharing something on my Facebook page is going to change the world, save a life, or prevent other untold disasters. And if that means I’m not your friend, well, I guess we weren’t that close to begin with.
I imagine if I took more time to ponder this I’d come up with more examples, but I don’t like to think in negative terms. I’d much rather dwell on good things people do. Hope nothing is annoying you today!