Congrats to my fellow Foxes and the Hound for all the writing and submitting that has been going on. I also worked a story I had put down some time ago and it has been submitted to several places. I am looking for more venues to which I can submit it.
Unfortunately, I have been a bit sidetracked by an auto accident. The granddaughters who were with me were shaken, but fine. My car is totaled. We’re still checking on my back, neck, and hands, which have not been great anyway. With any luck, rest and steroids will get me out of any lasting problems. (Please cross your fingers!)
I’m really behind on my reading and writing because of it. Here I had a lot of time but, well, things happen. (And I hope nothing like this happens again!)
I was inspired to write today’s post by an interview on NPR the other day. I only heard a small section of it and do not know the songwriter who was being interviewed, but what she said struck me as very strange.
We are writers of all kinds here, including those of articles, children’s stories, historicals, novels, romances, (quite often), and a couple of us are poets. I don’t know if anyone else has delved into songwriting, (lyrics, to be exact), but surely we are all fans of many types of songs. I’d like to see if any of you have ideas as to how what she proposed could possibly be accomplished. I was hoping that with the diversity of writers and readers, some could come up with ideas.
The woman said that she was concerned about the notions of love in love songs. The idea of giving your heart and soul completely to someone forever was a message that should not be sent out into the world(!) To pledge undying, unconditional love, is, to her, totally unacceptable in this ‘enlightened age’. “People have to know that there is a limit to what you will do for love. When do you stop? When do you say enough is enough and you should not do any more, that there are things that you will not put up with?” She actually said this…about love songs.
Far be it from me to tell anyone to stay in an unhealthy relationship. At risk of repeating myself too many times, I have stated here that I have dissuaded many young girls away from reading the Brontë sisters because they based their ‘heroes’ on their brother, who was no prize. Their male characters display behaviors that no girl should be led to believe are acceptable, nor should they be encouraged to become ‘patsies’ like the female characters, who are victims of the men. (Note that neither Charlotte nor Emily ever married.)
And I have told many men that they should not put up with abuse from women.
When John Lennon was going through his revolutionary phase he told Paul McCartney that the world was full of ‘silly love songs’ and that people have had enough them. Together they wrote some classically beautiful love songs and Paul knew that John was wrong. To answer him, he wrote his hit, “Silly Love Songs” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fK5oJcn99d4 when he had his own group, “Wings”.
[Consider this: When John Lennon made his ‘comeback’ just before he died, what were among his biggest hits? Silly (undying) love songs: “Woman” and “Starting Over”.]
Silly or not, a love song is a love song. It is a pledge of love given within a few minutes. It is hope. It is romance. I hate to think that people get married with the idea that, well, they can always get divorced if it isn’t perfect. I prefer to think that most people make vows actually intending to keep them. Judging by the fact that the songs I will use as examples have been played at more weddings than we can count should reassure us. Marriage or not, we are talking about LOVE here and expressing it.
The songwriter said that she didn’t have an answer as to HOW the words should be written, but that they needed to be.
Should Dan Fogelberg have written in “Longer Than”:
“Through the years as the fire starts to mellow
Burning lines in the book of our lives
Though the binding cracks
And the pages start to yellow
I’ll be in love with you”…. “If you don’t cheat on me” ?
In Elvis’ hit “I Can’t Help Falling in Love With You”,
Like a river flows
Surely to the sea
Darling, so it goes
They are meant to be
Take my hand
Take my whole life, too”…should the writers have added: “As long as you don’t hit me”?
Possibly the top rock love song of all time is the hot by the Association “Never My Love” :
Should it be amended to:
What makes you think love will end
When you know that my whole life depends
On you (on you) “as long as you behave”?
You say you fear I’ll change my mind
And I won’t require you “to be fair and pay your share”?
How can you think love will end
When I’ve asked you to spend your whole life
With me (with me, with me) “unless you screw up”?
Should Stevie Wonder have said, “I Just Called to Say I Love You”,
“but before I say it, what are you up to?”
No, he should not have.
I am at a loss as to why the woman thinks a love song should include conditions.
Her love life must have been very hard.
Why do you think?
[Happy St.Patrick’s Day…this should have been posted on St.Valentine’s Day, perhaps? LOL!]