Today we are asked to talk about our favorite ways to relax.

I don’t know that I ever truly relax.

I have a lot on my mind. Sitting still is not relaxing to me.

I am writing this in advance, since it is Christmas season and ‘relaxing’ isn’t going to be done much, although I am going to have fun making fancy foods. It is a stress-reliever for me, so does that count as “relaxing”?

OK, cooking, then. I can find that relaxing. I grew up a homebody with a mother and a father who both felt food was important; if my father was a tight-wad about everything else, money was spent on food, and the holidays meant real blow-outs at our house. It does for me at my house, too. Until the last two-day stretch, it’s relaxing.

Gardening. I used to enjoy making beautiful flowers grow, making trees and bushes flourish, strategically placing rocks, etc. for beautification, was very refreshing to me. Growing and harvesting lovely vegetables was also stress-relieving to me. Alas, my body no longer cooperates.

Writing. When I have the time and the peace, I like to write. I need to write. When I don’t write, I don’t relax. Getting far from the familiar hassles of my life to telling a story where I know the ending, or creating a story where the problems do not seem insurmountable and I have control over the behavior and outcome of all of the people involved, is  stress-relieving/relaxing  for me. Not much writing is going to get done in the next few weeks, which is too bad, because I was on a bit of a roll. I’ll get there again.

Watching movies and shows. I talk over the characters and the story, whether it is with my husband, grandchildren or other family members. I gave my husband an appreciation of the abilities of the actors and directors. He gave me an appreciation of the scoring. My husband will not play games with me, except a very rare game of Scrabble. (He likes analytical games with variations and statistics. Not my cup of tea. I have no idea how he can find it relaxing, but he does.) A very good yet familiar movie can be very relaxing. It’s been a while since I indulged alone, but I have found young people around me who have not seen some great classics and I really enjoy introducing them to beloved movies. I can get one or another of the kids into games of chess or cards, but we don’t play board games anymore and I just don’t go for the online games that the grandkids love.

I’m going out on a limb and assume that every one of the Foxes and the Hound mentioned reading as a way to relax. I can’t imagine them not doing so. What can take you away from all of your daily grind better than letting an author put you into another time and place, enthralling you with other people’s stories/lives, in other times/places?
Or, indeed, to other worlds?

Well, in your own world I wish you a very Merry Christmas, or any other holiday which you may celebrate this time of the year.


About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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  1. jeff7salter says:

    yes, indeed, Tonette. Reading was high on my list — as was watching old movies.
    Sadly (for me), I have not been able to interest grandkids in any of the old movies. I remember when Errol Flynn’s Capt. Blood came on TV a few years back, I arranged for my grandson to come over and watch it with me. This was right after all the craze about Capt. Jack Sparrow and the Pirates of the Carribbean. Well, the 1930s version of pirate life was far too slow for the grandson. Instead of beginning with a splashy swordfight and having another extravagant battle scene every two minutes, the Capt. Blood story began with the foundational elements: we learned what Flynn’s life was like when he was back in England, before he was falsely branded a criminal and had to become an outlaw. To me, that’s an important part of the story, but to the grandson, it was a boring 20 minutes and he just wanted to see the booms and blasts and dashing about.
    The whole experience left me rather depressed.

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  2. I’ve had trouble getting anyone under 40 to watch many b&W movies. I am having fun with a ‘significant other’ of one of my sons, who is game for them. My grandkids felt the same way. But now that they are a little older, they are getting more into drama shows on their own.

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  3. All of the things you have listed are ways that I relax. I don’t garden much anymore because we don’t have a place to really have a garden. Though I was told that maybe we might be able to put one in my mom’s yard this spring. I hope we can because I am looking forward to gardening with my kids.
    I have also been baking which helps me to relax at this time of year. I am done and won’t bake anything else before Christmas. So the next few days will probably be filled with watching old Christmas movies, reading books, writing in my own story. All of which will help with the stress that this season can bring.
    I wish you and your family a Merry Christmas.

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  4. Patricia Kiyono says:

    I’ve never enjoyed gardening, but I can see how it would be relaxing for people who enjoy it. They say being around plants is good for you – all that extra oxygen – but they always make me sneeze. Everything else sounds wonderful – cooking, watching movies (as long as I have a project in my hands), and ESPECIALLY reading! Hope the holidays don’t stress you out too much this year. Merry Christmas!

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    • I cut back on the baking and got it done early.I had a few days ‘off ‘, now the cooking for the dinner starts again tomorrow evening. The stress is in keeping everyone well and getting them together.
      Merry Christmas to you and yours,Patty!


  5. Joselyn says:

    I made my kids watch White Christmas this year. They liked the musical numbers, especially Sisters. My son wanted to know if all Christmas movies were romances. 😂 Merry Christmas!

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    • I think the answer is “Almost!” Except for “A Christmas Carol”, they all seem to have romance, (and one could argue that Ebenezer and Belle, Fred with his wife, the Cratchits and the Fezziwigs were romantic stories.
      I hope your family has a great Christmas.

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