Brave, Courageous and Bold

This week’s topic is the advice we would give to our younger selves.
That’s easy. There are two which would have made my life much better and they are linked:
“Be brave”. “Rely on yourself”.

I still have to battle the feelings that need this advice.

For many reasons, I was ridiculously shy .I knew that I had certain talents, but I never fully used them…and I still don’t. Most of my life I have found it hard to put myself and my works out there. I didn’t fail. It wasn’t hard once I did it. I have had success with many things to which I have put my hand. If only I had had the courage to do so early in life.

I really went through agony and lost precious time by worrying and holding back.
The second part, rely on myself. Despite the nay-sayers around me, despite the ones who instilled the fears in me, despite those who were jealous, I should have pulled myself up and been strong, which also would have helped others. It took me too long to do it. I should have had enough faith in myself to make more of myself FOR myself, BY myself. I should have shrugged off those who projected their self-doubts into me and had I only realized that some of those who inhibited my success were actually jealous, I would have been able to put my back to them, too.

I should have realized that just because I didn’t have support for my emotional and intellectual needs that I did not need them. I should have been stronger. I would probably have found support elsewhere.

“Don’t worry so much about what people think, or of failing. It’s not the end of the world. NOT trying is guaranteed  failure.”

I should have taken more chances. Just because others failed me, just because I wasn’t always immediately successful, just because others around me were not conducting their lives with the greatest care, did not mean that I had to be held back, or had to make up for their losses all the time, and not reached for more for myself.

Another piece of advice would be: “Do it now. It is never going to be the perfect time, there are never going to be perfect circumstances, take the little, more will come later.” That would have gotten me to continue my education, gotten training in other areas, gotten me through lesser jobs with more ease.

And I need to remember this to get my writings back in gear and put those which are finished out more.

“Go with your instincts, you prayed, you were answered. Seek God, seek the Lord” . That took me waaaay too long. I needed Him very much when I was young, but didn’t know that I could always have Him. My life and the lives of others around me would have been much better, had I known how strong I could be in Him.

Had I known that He had my back, I think all of the actions of the advice above would have come along.  Which would have led to :

“You have more courage then you know. ” I had to find it under trial by fire. If only I had used it for the betterment of my situations.

How about you? Did you have  personal support? Did you find it in the Higher Power?

[Is anyone old enough to remember the TV theme from which I borrowed today’s title? Has anyone younger seen it on retro television stations?]

About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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4 Responses to Brave, Courageous and Bold

  1. Patricia Kiyono says:

    I was pretty young when the tv series about Wyatt Earp first came on, but my mom watches it all the time on her favorite cable channel (COZI). I think the advice you’d give yourself fits pretty well with the wild west setting! I have to admit, my parents were quite supportive, though they never did FOR me, but rather encouraged me to work hard to attain my goals.

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    • I was also young, but my brother was older and just the right age for all the westerns at the time.Besides, my mother liked looking at Hugh O’Brien! She gave me an appreciation of character and intelligence, but also when a man was attractive!
      Sound like your parents were good at making you self-reliant, yet supportive of your goals.
      Good Job,Patty’s Parents!

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  2. jeff7salter says:

    yep, Wyatt Earp… though they played fast and loose with real history. Nonetheless, I loved that show.
    All these are great points of advice. And I think most of us have had periods — some longer than others, perhaps — of reticence (whether characterized as shyness or lack of confidence).
    And many were fortunate to have a terrific “cheering section” — support team of parents, teachers, friends, family (who encouraged almost any effort).
    Sadly, many kids grew up not only without that cheering section, but with active opposition and discouragement.

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    • I figured you’d get “Wyatt Earp” for sure, Jeff. Not to dwell on the bad, but I often had the opposite of a ‘cheering’ section.
      I’d never want to go back in time in my life without being armed with what I know now.

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