This week’s topic is the advice we would give to our younger selves.
That’s easy. There are two which would have made my life much better and they are linked:
“Be brave”. “Rely on yourself”.
I still have to battle the feelings that need this advice.
For many reasons, I was ridiculously shy .I knew that I had certain talents, but I never fully used them…and I still don’t. Most of my life I have found it hard to put myself and my works out there. I didn’t fail. It wasn’t hard once I did it. I have had success with many things to which I have put my hand. If only I had had the courage to do so early in life.
I really went through agony and lost precious time by worrying and holding back.
The second part, rely on myself. Despite the nay-sayers around me, despite the ones who instilled the fears in me, despite those who were jealous, I should have pulled myself up and been strong, which also would have helped others. It took me too long to do it. I should have had enough faith in myself to make more of myself FOR myself, BY myself. I should have shrugged off those who projected their self-doubts into me and had I only realized that some of those who inhibited my success were actually jealous, I would have been able to put my back to them, too.
I should have realized that just because I didn’t have support for my emotional and intellectual needs that I did not need them. I should have been stronger. I would probably have found support elsewhere.
“Don’t worry so much about what people think, or of failing. It’s not the end of the world. NOT trying is guaranteed failure.”
I should have taken more chances. Just because others failed me, just because I wasn’t always immediately successful, just because others around me were not conducting their lives with the greatest care, did not mean that I had to be held back, or had to make up for their losses all the time, and not reached for more for myself.
Another piece of advice would be: “Do it now. It is never going to be the perfect time, there are never going to be perfect circumstances, take the little, more will come later.” That would have gotten me to continue my education, gotten training in other areas, gotten me through lesser jobs with more ease.
And I need to remember this to get my writings back in gear and put those which are finished out more.
“Go with your instincts, you prayed, you were answered. Seek God, seek the Lord” . That took me waaaay too long. I needed Him very much when I was young, but didn’t know that I could always have Him. My life and the lives of others around me would have been much better, had I known how strong I could be in Him.
Had I known that He had my back, I think all of the actions of the advice above would have come along. Which would have led to :
“You have more courage then you know. ” I had to find it under trial by fire. If only I had used it for the betterment of my situations.
How about you? Did you have personal support? Did you find it in the Higher Power?
[Is anyone old enough to remember the TV theme from which I borrowed today’s title? Has anyone younger seen it on retro television stations?]