Have I ever been asked to put someone in to one of my stories? No, I don’t think I have. I have based characters off of people in my life. Family members and friends often make little appearances, it can be something as simple as a look they have, a mannerism in speech. When I was writing Jade: Out of the Ashes I texted my aunt to ask her if I could borrow her name. A character suddenly appeared in the story who I did not plan on being in the story at all. She demanded some attention. This kind woman reminded me so much of my aunt that I knew I couldn’t use any other name. That and I love her name! Mora-Leigh, it is such a beautiful name and I have only ever met one person with it. My aunt was pleased to let me borrow her name and to use some of her traits in the story. I think she was the first person to purchase the book when it came out. I remember her texting me within a few hours of it going live to tell me that she had already read the part that has her in it. She had skipped ahead to the end of the book and read that first because she knew that was where that character showed up! I was glad that she was pleased with what she read.
I think it would be difficult to intentionally base a significant character on someone I know. I would be too worried that they wouldn’t like something I did. That they would respond with “I would NEVER do that!” or “I wouldn’t say that!” That is far too much added stress to writing for me.
I have been added into a friend’s book though. One day I received a text “How do you feel about being a ghost?” Haha, I’m sure anyone else would have thought that was a strange question to be asked but when you’re an author and your friends are authors, those sort of conversations seem to happen A LOT!