What Was I Supposed to Do?

This week’s topic of discussion: What is something for which you constantly need reminding? 

I’ve been a list-maker for many years, and I always have a calendar or two nearby. Both habits sprang from a string of embarrassing events which I either forgot and didn’t show up for, or neglected to do or bring something important. Since I started making lists, showing up where I need to go and bringing what I need are not things I’ve struggled with during the last several years. But whenever my routine is changed, I need time to adjust, and details are overlooked. The extended stay-at-home orders (still in effect in my state) have really wreaked havoc with my routine and often affects my ability to think, so I asked my hubby to help me with this topic. Between us we came up with a list. Some have been problems for many years, and others are more recent.

When hubby and I first married, my biggest challenge (and greatest embarrassment) was remembering his first name. I could come up with the first letter, and sometimes the ending consonant sound, but what came out of my mouth was often the wrong name. It finally got to the point where I had to resort to calling him “Husband.” I’d get an eye roll, but he’d respond. Once he stuck out his hand and introduced himself to me. Now that we’re the only two people in the house, it’s not as much of an issue. If I’m talking, I’m either speaking to him, or to someone on the phone. But I’ll admit, there are still times when I have to run through a list of names that begin with M until I hit one that sounds right.

Another problem I often have is remembering our anniversary. When I’m working, I remember it on the way home from work, so I can usually stop somewhere and pick up a card and a small appliance of some kind. I may have had to resort to a slight fib once or twice, telling him that “I ordered something, but it hasn’t arrived yet.” I’m happy to say that I’ve made considerable progress on this one. This year, I remembered to say “Happy Anniversary.” But I still need to find a suitable gift.

About a year ago, my doctor prescribed medication which I’m supposed to take first thing in the morning. Since my other meds are taken at night just before I go to bed, this has caused a huge shift in my routine. I probably neglected to take the medication at least two or three times a week until I finally put the container on top of the coffeemaker. In the morning, when I grab my first cup of coffee, the pills are right there. I still miss a day here and there, but that’s often because someone who shall remain nameless (because I can’t remember his name) moves the pill bottle when getting his cup.

My glasses, phone, and keys often disappear. I’m not sure if that’s because I’ve got different things on my mind, or if it’s due to aging, but getting ready to leave the house often takes much longer than it should because I’m looking for one or more of these items. Perhaps I need to start wearing an eyeglass strap and fanny pack so that they stay with me all the time.

What do you struggle with remembering? How do you compensate?

About Patricia Kiyono

During her first career, Patricia Kiyono taught elementary music, computer classes, elementary classrooms, and junior high social studies. She now teaches music education at the university level. She lives in southwest Michigan with her husband, not far from her five children, nine grandchildren (so far), and great-granddaughters. Current interests, aside from writing, include sewing, crocheting, scrapbooking, and music. A love of travel and an interest in faraway people inspires her to create stories about different cultures. Check out her sweet historical contemporary romances at her Amazon author page: http://www.amazon.com/Patricia-Kiyono/e/B0067PSM5C/
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10 Responses to What Was I Supposed to Do?

  1. Jeff Salter says:

    delightful read. Please pass along my appreciation to what’s-his-name.
    Right this moment, I can’t remember the things I usually forget. So I’ll have to locate my thinking cap before Hound day.

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  2. I am sorry for your problems but I agree with Jeff; this is delightful! How did I miss seeing this topic? Maybe I have to be reminded to look at the list harder!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      Glad we could provide some entertainment! There was a time when someone in my quilting group asked what my husband’s name was. After I ran through a half dozen names, she asked, “Just how many times have you been married?”

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  3. Alicia Dean says:

    I need reminders for everything! I am constantly making and revising and re-doing to do lists. I also give Alexa a good workout to remind me of many, many things. Enjoyed the post!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      Our Alexa turns on and off the outdoor lights and the front door camera. I hadn’t used it for reminders, but that’s a good idea. Thanks for visiting, Alicia!


  4. Elaine Cantrell says:

    Great post. I especially like that you have trouble with your husband’s name. I’ve called my husband by a character’s name before.

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    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      Ha! I’ve done that too. And it wasn’t a name that started with M, either. I told him that was because he was the inspiration for that character.


  5. Diana Stout says:

    What a riot! I would not have known this about you. Laugh-out-loud moments, especially remembering his name. LOL

    I have to write next day appointments on Post-It Notes that I stick on the bathroom mirror, otherwise I forget. And if I ever lose my paper planner, I’m really lost.

    I throw stuff that HAS to go out the door with me the next day on the floor by the door so that I can’t forget. That could be a problem if I had pets or other bodies in my apartment. Then, I used to put the things in a side pocket in my purse, but even then I would forget they were there. LOL

    As for pills, I have the opposite problem of forgetting to take them at night. Probably because I don’t have a regular bedtime routine.

    Great post!!!

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    • Patricia Kiyono says:

      I’m sure it’s funnier to us than it is to him! I too have a “staging area” for stuff that needs to leave the house with me. Sometimes I actually put things IN the car to make sure they leave the house. And not having a regular bedtime does complicate things that need to be done at a certain time. I usually take my evening pills when the nightly news comes on. That’s sort of my signal for getting ready for bed, even if I don’t actually GO to bed for a few hours.


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