What Was I Supposed to Do?

This week’s topic of discussion: What is something for which you constantly need reminding? 

I’ve been a list-maker for many years, and I always have a calendar or two nearby. Both habits sprang from a string of embarrassing events which I either forgot and didn’t show up for, or neglected to do or bring something important. Since I started making lists, showing up where I need to go and bringing what I need are not things I’ve struggled with during the last several years. But whenever my routine is changed, I need time to adjust, and details are overlooked. The extended stay-at-home orders (still in effect in my state) have really wreaked havoc with my routine and often affects my ability to think, so I asked my hubby to help me with this topic. Between us we came up with a list. Some have been problems for many years, and others are more recent.

When hubby and I first married, my biggest challenge (and greatest embarrassment) was remembering his first name. I could come up with the first letter, and sometimes the ending consonant sound, but what came out of my mouth was often the wrong name. It finally got to the point where I had to resort to calling him “Husband.” I’d get an eye roll, but he’d respond. Once he stuck out his hand and introduced himself to me. Now that we’re the only two people in the house, it’s not as much of an issue. If I’m talking, I’m either speaking to him, or to someone on the phone. But I’ll admit, there are still times when I have to run through a list of names that begin with M until I hit one that sounds right.

Another problem I often have is remembering our anniversary. When I’m working, I remember it on the way home from work, so I can usually stop somewhere and pick up a card and a small appliance of some kind. I may have had to resort to a slight fib once or twice, telling him that “I ordered something, but it hasn’t arrived yet.” I’m happy to say that I’ve made considerable progress on this one. This year, I remembered to say “Happy Anniversary.” But I still need to find a suitable gift.

About a year ago, my doctor prescribed medication which I’m supposed to take first thing in the morning. Since my other meds are taken at night just before I go to bed, this has caused a huge shift in my routine. I probably neglected to take the medication at least two or three times a week until I finally put the container on top of the coffeemaker. In the morning, when I grab my first cup of coffee, the pills are right there. I still miss a day here and there, but that’s often because someone who shall remain nameless (because I can’t remember his name) moves the pill bottle when getting his cup.

My glasses, phone, and keys often disappear. I’m not sure if that’s because I’ve got different things on my mind, or if it’s due to aging, but getting ready to leave the house often takes much longer than it should because I’m looking for one or more of these items. Perhaps I need to start wearing an eyeglass strap and fanny pack so that they stay with me all the time.

What do you struggle with remembering? How do you compensate?