This week: “The best four words that describe you”.


(That one could be a choice!)

Since I will have to make a stab and do some spoul-searching, let’s go with


Yes, I am honest. I hate lying. I see no sense to it. I have had people around me and in my extended family who lie all the time, for no reason whatsoever. Seriously, one used to flip-flop stories.  It must make them feel powerful in some way. But I see power in truth. That isn’t to say that I blurt everything out or don’t temper comments, because I am also


I was brought up to be so. We know that if someone needs something and it is within our power to give it, (be it time, money, a place to stay, etc.), we give it. We need to kind to others. You really do never know what is going on behind closed doors, and if people took care of their own more, gave of themselves more the world would be a better place.(Even if it was not practiced among the family members all of the time.)


I have always read with a dictionary nearby. Now one is on my computer and on my phone. I collect reference books and my phone gets used to look things up more than it is used as phone. If I don’t know something, I look into it. I can’t let it wait for long.


I need to write, even if it is in my head. I need to develop new ways to be creative with food; we seldom eat the same thing prepared exactly the same way. I have been developing plant-based and/or gluten-free recipes for myself and others has been a challenge that I have embraced.
I need to make things, although I have not done as much of that as I had in times past. However, this past week, I designed and  made a ‘Busy-quilt’ for the just -turned one-year-old Grandson who is too precocious for his own good. (He  discovered  at 11 months that he could hang  up on Grandma’s video calls and amused himself to no end doing so, he learned how to turn off their electric ‘fireplace’ even before that, and he has been using the remote to find what he wants to watch on TV for several months now.)

 So, there we go, although I dare to guess that others would find different and less attractive attributes,

like me being a

 1) PERFECTIONIST (Which also makes me a PROCRASTINATOR)

 2) WORRIER, (as someone said about me, I have a sense of family almost to a fault),

3) SHRINKING VIOLET, (although people mistake it for aloofness; this also leads to procrastination)

4) ODDBALL/WEIRDO, (I have diverse interests and many seem to come into conflict with people’s ideas of  ‘conservativism ’ and ‘liberalism’, because I don’t know why there is an all-or-nothing-at-all ,us-or-them attitude.)

So, there you have me. I have no idea what YOUR choices about me would be.
(If you feel the need to mention anything, please take in mind  #2 on my top list!)

About Tonette Joyce

Tonette was a once-fledgling lyricists-bookkeeper, turned cook/baker/restaurateur and is now exploring different writing venues,(with a stage play recently completed). She has had poetry and nonfiction articles published in the last few years. Tonette has been married to her only serious boyfriend for more than thirty years and she is, as one person described her, family-oriented almost to a fault. Never mind how others have described her, she is,(shall we say), a sometime traditionalist of eclectic tastes.She has another blog : "Tonette Joyce:Food,Friends,Family" here at WordPress.She and guests share tips and recipes for easy entertaining and helps people to be ready for almost anything.
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8 Responses to Four-By-Four

  1. Patricia Kiyono says:

    I wouldn’t argue with your choices. I also spend a lot of time looking things up rather than just wondering about them. It doesn’t make sense to simply wonder about something when the information is at my fingertips!

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  2. Jeff Salter says:

    Inquisitive / curious could also have been one of my selections for yesterday’s post. I may not always find out [the whatever], but I nearly always want to know.
    About lying: I’ve known several people who appeared to be pathological liars. And, as you pointed out, often there’s no evident reason for them to lie. They lied because it was just as natural as breathing to you and me. And they nearly always got tumbled up in their lies, because their lies were so “out-there” that people were drawn to challenge them.
    It was sometimes amusing to witness… though I never felt compelled to participate in those challenges. My view was that these pathological liars had some deep-seeded need to portray themselves as such… and, therefore, I didn’t wish to be the one to deflate them. Sure, I knew they were lying, but was willing to be their friend nonetheless.

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    • Friends, not so much, but there is one big one in the family and you just have to deal with it. This person would get upset if I did not back them up when I’d be with them and some outrageous story that came back from someone else. How would I know what was told, anyway? The truth would come out in conversations. The one up-side is that with this person coming up with stories on the fly, some very funny jokes came of it.

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  3. I think the 4 words you picked for yourself suit you very well.
    As for oddball, there is nothing wrong with that. I’ve been called that many times. I embrace it. I would hate to fit into anyone’s mold.

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  4. Elaine Cantrell says:

    That’s a great list. I especially think it’s good to be honest and caring.


    • Thanks, Elaine. I have endeavored to do that, although I was strangely too shy to do all that I could. Forcing myself to used care on those who were truly difficult has made me a better person.


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