Communication Gap

The Tale of the Blue Cloth Bundle

By Jeff Salter

I know the pre-marriage counselling sessions deal with a lot of varied topics, including the importance of communication. But sometimes, after decades have passed, maybe we don’t remember all that good advice. Consider this Facebook post from December 2017:
Folks, here’s a true-life lesson about marriage… sometimes it might be better if you just DISCUSS a subject. Case in point —

This is NOT the actual pile of dark blue folded material from my true story.

About 10 days ago, a sizeable (loosely folded) clump of dark blue material appeared on top of my side of the bed. It triggered no recognition for me, so… naturally, I moved it to HER side of the bed.
Next day, it showed up again on my side of the bed.
Again, I moved it back to her side.
This went on for seven days.
Neither of us said a word about the folded clump of dark blue material that we silently moved from one side of the bed to the other.
Clearly, I was communicating: “please deal with your clump of blue material without me having to move it every night.”
Just as clearly, she was (apparently) saying, “here’s a blue clump of material.”
Well, folks, on Day Eight, I finally examined the folded clump of blue material more closely. And that’s when I noticed the loops across one end.
Yep, you guessed it.
It was one of the curtains for my three study windows — the one that had fallen down in about 2014 and King Sipper had turned into a napping spot. So in those three years, it had collected 6.9 pounds of cat hair. Denise had found it, washed it, dried it… and then folded it.
[Wordlessly, of course.]
And then she put it on my side of the bed so I could re-hang it in the window.
* * * *
Funny thing — that set of dark blue curtains which I’d seen every single day for the eleven years (we’ve been in this house)… seemed so completely alien when I saw them folded on the bed.
I think I may get around to re-hanging them some day… perhaps around 2019 or so.
Of course, it’s also possible that I’ll just place that folded clump of blue material back on her side of the bed again. You know, just for old time’s sake.

Question:
Have YOU ever endured a similar communication glitch in which neither of you took the effort to SPEAK?

[JLS #600]

About Jeff Salter

Currently writing romantic comedy, screwball comedy, and romantic suspense. Fourteen completed novels and four completed novellas. Working with three royalty publishers: Clean Reads, Dingbat Publishing, & TouchPoint Press/Romance. "Cowboy Out of Time" -- Apr. 2019 /// "Double Down Trouble" -- June 2018 /// "Not Easy Being Android" -- Feb. 2018 /// "Size Matters" -- Oct. 2016 /// "The Duchess of Earl" -- Jul. 2016 /// "Stuck on Cloud Eight" -- Nov. 2015 /// "Pleased to Meet Me" (novella) -- Oct. 2015 /// "One Simple Favor" (novella) -- May 2015 /// "The Ghostess & MISTER Muir" -- Oct. 2014 /// "Scratching the Seven-Month Itch" -- Sept. 2014 /// "Hid Wounded Reb" -- Aug. 2014 /// "Don't Bet On It" (novella) -- April 2014 /// "Curing the Uncommon Man-Cold -- Dec. 2013 /// "Echo Taps" (novella) -- June 2013 /// "Called To Arms Again" -- (a tribute to the greatest generation) -- May 2013 /// "Rescued By That New Guy in Town" -- Oct. 2012 /// "The Overnighter's Secrets" -- May 2012 /// Co-authored two non-fiction books about librarianship (with a royalty publisher), a chapter in another book, and an article in a specialty encyclopedia. Plus several library-related articles and reviews. Also published some 120 poems, about 150 bylined newspaper articles, and some 100 bylined photos. Worked about 30 years in librarianship. Formerly newspaper editor and photo-journalist. Decorated veteran of U.S. Air Force (including a remote ‘tour’ of duty in the Arctic … at Thule AB in N.W. Greenland). Married; father of two; grandfather of six.
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12 Responses to Communication Gap

  1. I think that is a fairly common occurrence in marriages, at least, it has happened here, (and even on the bed), where something was put there by one of us to get the other person’s attention, and the other person mistaking it for something that needed the first person’s attention.
    In fact, it has happened a number of times, and by both of us, I have to admit.
    We have to laugh. It’s terribly comical, and WHY don’t you fellows notice what is right in front of you? LOL! This reminds me of the basket that is made in the shape of a turtle, which sits in our bathroom, right on the back of the toilet, like the bottom of the hug rack that stands over the tank.
    Every couple of years The Husband needs one of the items that I keep for convenience in it, but every time I have to describe in detail where the item is, what the turtle basket is, and where it is. Mind you, this is a man who can tell you precisely what Charlemagne was doing in the Spring of 812, or any other year.

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  2. jbrayweber says:

    Well? Did you ever hang them up? ☺ Kudos to Denise for her patience.
    I’m way too vocal to not communicate. The problem is the “listening” to me when I do.

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    • Jeff Salter says:

      Actually, no… not yet. In the intervening years, so much clutter has accumulated in that corner of my study that I can’t reach the window! LOL

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  3. It’s 2022 now, you might want to get around to hanging those curtains back up. LOL I do enjoy reading these little snippets from your life. They always bring a smile

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  4. Patricia Kiyono says:

    As often as hubby and I quarreled, I can’t think of an instance where we didn’t understand what the other was saying. He was pretty blunt, and I learned to be. As Angela said, you should hang those curtains up!

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    • Jeff Salter says:

      Actually, the sun does not bother me from that window, because it’s shaded by the front porch. So I get a bit of “daylight” into my study without any direct sun glare (such as comes from the other two windows, if not curtained).

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  5. Elaine Cantrell says:

    Jeff, we aren’t like that. We both usually express ourselves and make our opinions known verbally. If that happened here my husband probably wouldn’t have recognized the blue bundle either. He’s not much interested in interior decorating.

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    • Jeff Salter says:

      Well, sometimes we start out with verbal interaction… but occasionally, we’re going in different directions and one party is not present when the other party finds something or does something.

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  6. trishafaye says:

    Fun post. So very true, yet the way you tell the story, I always get more than a few giggles.

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